masterbation
Hello brother. I have a real problem with masturbation, really. I have been doing it pretty much once a day since I was 14 (I'm 22). It's become more of a habit than anything.
I always knew that masturbation was a sin, however I just learned that it is a grave sin. Now, in the past I had took communion, knowing that I was in sin due to my frequent masturbation. Last week, I confessed to this. Since then, I have fallen again to the temptation of masturbation. Having just recently learned that it is a grave sin I will stop masturbating as of now (at least make a real effort to). My question is this: must I confess again before taking part in communion?
QUESTION from Sal on May 15, 2004
ANSWER by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM on May 19, 2004
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Dear Sal: Yes, you need to go to Confession if you have fallen into the sin again since last Confession. I would also advise two things, in addition to the normal elements of advice of staying away from the near occasion of sin, frequent reception of the Sacraments, and such" 1) Temptation normally comes in rather small "windows of opportunity". If we can distract ourselves for a few minutes to allow that "window" to pass, we can be much more successful in resisting the temptation. For example, when feeling the temptation, get up and do the dishes, mow the lawn, watch the T.V. news, anything that takes you away from that temptation. 2) Habitual indulgence in masturbation is often more than just a habit; it is usually a form of compulsive-obsessiveness. I would advise talking to one's doctor about this. Taking a drug like Zoloff will correct the chemical imbalance in the brain that tends to cause compulsive-obsessive behavior. I know many people who have successfully overcome their habit by use of drugs like Zoloff.
We will be praying for you, P.S. we have a support group for people who have addictions to sexual sins. It is not open at the moment, but plan on re-opening it this summer. This support group, in conjunction with the Sacrament of Confession and the Eucharist, Eucharistic adoration, prayer and devotion, avoiding the near occasion has been very successful. |