children a blessing
Dear Brother Ignatius,
Your last answer, given to Jamie, gave me shivers all the way down to my spine. Sorry to say it that way but it is nonetheless the truth of it.
I am a women who had a hard time in life in dealing with my sexuality. Sorry to be so blunt but again it's the plain truth.
I ,for one, do not want children. I am not into dating and so forth either cause of other loads i carry on my shoulders right now. I can't even see myself dating any guy as a matter of fact and don't think i will ever be able to. God bless my soul with more then one healing. Maybe the fear i have deep inside me will slowly turn into something constructing.
Now you said to deliberatly not want children is a grave sin. How am i to live my life then???? As i see myself with any hopes of ever getting through these problems that i am facing in every possible way. And i do not want children deliberalty cause sometimes, i just don't want to heal or to think of it cause it hurts so much to do so. It's not i do not want to forgive that i have done and over and over again. Sometimes it's not that i do not want to be healed but rather i just cant heal it and deal with it. I don't want to hurt Jesus' heart and the Fathers as i see mine hurts enough. NO need to wound others. With the time passing by and unability to heal we are nto getting any younger and soon the age of having safly a child is gone. What then????? I am in tears as i do love my Lord.
I am sure that other women out there feel the same way as i do. Are we all doomed to live our lives away from the only source we have of healing and with out hurting him and sinning against him.
How to deal with this i am in tears.
thank you.
QUESTION from Tannianly on May 10, 2004
ANSWER by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM on May 11, 2004
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Dear Tannianly: Thank you for your question. The issue of children belongs to married couples only. MARRIED couples with no intention of having children are sinning. If a woman is single, not only is she not required to have children but if she do, then the sin of fornication has been committed. The baby is still a blessing, but how she got pregnant was sinful since sex outside marriage is the sin of fornication. There are many women who choose not to marry. Religious sisters and many secular women choose to live a single life. In fact, some men and women (not monks or nuns) are called to live a single life. This is a great vocation. Being single, of course, means that one is not called to have sex or children. Bottomline: the only time that openness to having children is required is when one is married. I am sorry that my words were misinterpreted, but do not fear, as a single woman, and as long as you are single, the issue of children does not apply.
God Bless, |