threatening divorce
Thank you so much for this forum and your invaluable advice. I have written before regarding my family turmoil over me deciding to be confirmed into the Catholic Church.
Last night, I was reading a section of the CCC regarding parental responsibilities and the responsibilities of children to my wife because I thought she would heartily agree with the material.
After finishing she asked my if I had already made up my mind to be confirmed. I told her that I had. She then stated that if I did this, it would most likely cause a DIVORCE and that it was not right that I am going to Mass on Saturday evening alone and that she has to deal with our daughter who asks her about where I've gone.
I have been attending Mass on Sat. evening and then attending her Presbyterian church on Sunday morning with the family. She also told me that she did not want me leaving my Catholic "propaganda" around where our daughter might see it and read it.
I do not want to lose my family and marriage over this. My wife has made it clear that she will not ever become Catholic and neither will our children.
What should I do. Please advise....
QUESTION from Doug on May 27, 2004
ANSWER by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM on June 1, 2004
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Dear Doug: I will let Jesus answer your question from Luke 12:
51 "Do you think that I have come to give peace on earth? No, I tell you, but rather division; 52 for henceforth in one house there will be five divided, three against two and two against three; 53 they will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against her mother, mother-in-law against her daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law." If you lose your marriage over this, that is a profoundly sad thing, but your soul is more important than your family. From what you are saying you have become convinced of the Catholic position. If that is so, then you are responsible to follow the truth that you have found. To fail to do so places your own soul in danger. I would suggest committing your wife to major prayer and get many others to pray for her too. Go ahead and be confirmed in the Catholic Church and accept whatever happens. She may not leave if you call her bluff. If she does, that is VERY sad, but you cannot reject the call of God because of her blackmail and threats (something, by the way, is NOT what a person who loves does). You must accept God's call and pray and hope she will follow someday. We will be in prayer for her and you.
God Bless, |